i recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years.. she is 40 years old, with health problems, financial problems, little family/friend support, and facing an uncertain future.
i gave her some money.. the guilt i am experiencing right now is absolutely anguishing.
she had very, very high hopes about our relationship and loved me very deeply.
did I love her enough to make a lifelong commitment to the relationship? No.
how would I feel if I learned that she had found a new guy and was very happy with him? Ecstatically happy for her, and hugely relieved that my leaving her didnt crush her to the point of no return.
so why do I keep thinking that I made a big mistake leaving her?
anguish
http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/2012/12/18/psychology-reveals-the-comforts-of-the-apocalypse/.
don't know if this was posted here when this article was current (2012).. .
although i have left jwism far behind me, i still live with very strong, sometimes almost unbearable, fears of catastrophic events leading to complete societal breakdown..
Don't know if this was posted here when this article was current (2012).
Although I have left JWism far behind me, I still live with very strong, sometimes almost unbearable, fears of catastrophic events leading to complete societal breakdown.
These uptight, moralistic rants by jaydubyas just kill me.
The whole point of JWism is that god is going to kill all non-jaydubs ANY DAY NOW. Right??
So why get upset?
a bit of background first: my mom's sister died 2 years ago.
she wasn't a jw.
she was far too smart to be one to be honest.
So if a non-JW dies on the operating table ONE TENTH OF A SECOND before the big A hits...they will be resurrected in paradise. But the worldly doctor and nurses, obliterated for all time, bird food.
It never made any sense to me at all.
ok...so after this new light came out in the watchtower study over the weekend...a couple questions:.
1. why is the year 1914 still relevant to the doctrine?.
2. what would the effects be in they were to ever drop the 1914 teaching in the future (let's say 20 years from now)?.
Sarajevo, 1914.
"Aw crap! We're stuck down here on the earth now guys! Man they kicked our BUTTS up there! ... So , what do we do now? Hey I know! Let's um, somehow set it up so that a major political figure gets assassinated, triggering a war of unprecedented scale! BWAHHAHAHA! are you guys in? Let's do this!!"
Satan, the original Allstate Insurance mayhem guy
i recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years.. she is 40 years old, with health problems, financial problems, little family/friend support, and facing an uncertain future.
i gave her some money.. the guilt i am experiencing right now is absolutely anguishing.
she had very, very high hopes about our relationship and loved me very deeply.
Thanks caliber.
this breakup is the most difficult thing I've ever experienced. Far more difficult than the leaving-JWs trauma i experienced back in 2002.
just once after serena williams says "thanks to jehovah god" i would love to hear the commentator ask her "when's the last time you've been out in field service or attended a meeting"?.
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You know, the thing about Serena is that personality is so utterly lacking with her that I don't worry about anybody getting interested in JWism due to her thanking groovy jeehoovy after one of her snoozefest tennis matches where she shrieks so loud every time she hits the ball that it becomes like nails on a chalkboard, and she's so dominant it's silly.
i am not jw, and never intend to be one either.
however, having read a lot about the july 15 wt, i decided to go to the kh today and check out how the new light was going to be delivered.
i thought i would share my observations;.
The fourth grade q&a coverage of the articles, where the paragraph is read, then a loaded question with only one right answer is asked, then somebody from the audience answers by reading directly from the paragraph that was just read... one of the most surreal aspects of JWism
i recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years.. she is 40 years old, with health problems, financial problems, little family/friend support, and facing an uncertain future.
i gave her some money.. the guilt i am experiencing right now is absolutely anguishing.
she had very, very high hopes about our relationship and loved me very deeply.
Thing is, is that SHE feels the need to save ME, and she worries about me like crazy. So it runs both ways.
I think that today has been the hardest day yet since the breakup. Wow, just...feeling it right down to my bones.
i recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years.. she is 40 years old, with health problems, financial problems, little family/friend support, and facing an uncertain future.
i gave her some money.. the guilt i am experiencing right now is absolutely anguishing.
she had very, very high hopes about our relationship and loved me very deeply.
cog diz,
Is there a part of you that needs to feel like the caregiver, the saviour, the on who has his shit together (which in a subtle way puts you in charge and in control)?
I'm guessing yes, because you are thinking of going back with her, not out of love and enjoying her company but to "save" her from potential suicide. That need on your part can be just as co-dependent as her helplessness and until you address that need in your self to be a rescuer, you might end up in the same kind of relationship with a needy woman all over again.
Oh hell yes. Savior issues for sure, and I was definitely in charge and in control of the relationship, and her - I guess you could say that I became pretty controlling. And she played HER part in that equation. And that's why I'm so fearful for her - she has this 'I can't live without him' thing going on. I'm fearful for myself though too. Protecting her and helping her added a certain amount of meaning to my life, but at the same time it exhausted me and made me really crazy. But I feel this emptiness now.
She gets very, very attached to people and animals. Her grandfather died over 10 years ago, and she still cries about that. She still cries about this cat of hers that died a couple of years ago that was her special boy. I can't even imagine what the eventual death of her aging parents will do to her. And she was so, so completely attached to me. I can't imagine that she's anything but utterly devastated and destroyed right now - just a sobbing crying mess sitting alone in her condo. I hope she can find strength, I really do, but I'm doubtful after being with her for four years and seeing how her mind operates.
I'm not sure about the "shit together" part. I certainly don't feel that way a lot of days. Today especially! Sundays are always rough...